In his last post James mentioned the German gay couple we met at the NFS drinks. Now what really endeared them to me was the fact that this couple had moved to the UK purely because they were not allowed to adopt in their native Germany. So strong was their desire to become parents, that Read more about Should gays be allowed to adopt?[…]
After RSVP-ing online, the day came to attend our first adoption-related social event. I was quite excited (more so than Ethan), partly because we were going to meet like-minded individuals but also because, as one gets older, one meets new groups of people less and less. To be introduced to a whole new bunch is Read more about The New Family Social, Social![…]
A lot of the adoption process is all about WAITING! Waiting for various people to fulfil their end of the bargain. It may be waiting for a social worker to get back to you, waiting for a reference to come through, waiting for the child of your dreams…. All the adoption forums seem to say Read more about Will we be accepted onto Stage 1?[…]
CONCURRENT PLANNING Concurrent Planning is for babies and young children under 2 in care who are likely to need adoption, but who still have a chance of being reunited with their birth family. Concurrent carers perform the role of foster carer while the courts decide whether or not a child can return to its birth family. Read more about Concurrent Planning Vs Fostering for Adoption[…]
So, we waited for the form. It arrived at 4.43pm on Monday 11th May: not bad as we’d only met on the Friday. It was printed in orange ink. I think it’s the only document I’ve ever come across to contain orange text! Anyway, the process of completing the form itself didn’t take long. Less than an Read more about The ‘ROI’ Form[…]
The day of our very first private meeting with Mosaic had arrived. Even the night before I kept thinking that this was going to be a ‘big day’. Although I realise that now that we’ve embarked on this process there are a hell of a lot more ‘big days’ ahead of us. Now, as I Read more about Pre Stage One Meeting[…]
In my defence, the Sat Nav took us to completely the wrong place, even though it was the correct postcode. If it wasn’t for that, we would have been on time! That’s all I have to say on that particular subject. Ethan has a little more time on his hands than those of us who Read more about Obsessive Searching…[…]
So the first place we started looking for information was on the internet and there is a LOT of stuff out there! Lots of Local Authorities (LAs) have their own web pages specifically for fostering and adoption. Further searches revealed that there are also dedicated Voluntary Agencies (VAs) that deal with fostering and adoption. I’ll Read more about Getting the ball rolling[…]
So James and I have been together just short of 3 years (so we’ve cheated a little on the 3 years part of our blog title!) I have always dreamed of being a parent, but growing up gay had resigned myself to the thought that it would never be a reality. Then when I reached Read more about In The Beginning…[…]