Going nowhere fast

              ‘Anything worth having is worth waiting for.’ ‘All good things come to those who wait.’ Platitudes like the ones above are all very well and good when one is trying to find the will to keep ploughing through something that is sure to yield rewards eventually. But let Read more about Going nowhere fast[…]

Stars Aligning

What feels like many, many moons ago (May) when we first embarked on the adoption process,  we discovered that there are barriers to becoming adoptive parents. Not the barriers that I had expected such as us being an unmarried male same sex couple,  but the fact that we, horror of horrors lived in a one bedroom Read more about Stars Aligning[…]

Will depression cost me parenthood?

We haven’t done a new post in a while and that’s partly to do with the fact that not a lot is happening with our adoption process at the moment, and partly to do with the fact that we’ve both been incredibly busy. However there’s been an area of our lives that I’ve been wanting Read more about Will depression cost me parenthood?[…]

No stone left unturned

It is a wonderful thing to get to experience, thriving, ‘normal’ families that just happen to be headed by same sex parents. Having been to the NFS family event, the carrot that dangles in front of us is all the more tangible, all the more enticing. The problem is, in order for us to get Read more about No stone left unturned[…]

Adoption this, adoption that – blah blah blah…

These days I find myself dropping the word ‘adoption’ into every other sentence I utter. Every other thought is about adoption and I’m constantly seeing the world through Potential Adopter’s Eyes. (I’m sure this must be some kind of syndrome, though I haven’t yet got round to Googling it for confirmation…) I find myself noticing Read more about Adoption this, adoption that – blah blah blah…[…]

Should gays be allowed to adopt?

In his last post James mentioned the German gay couple we met at the NFS drinks. Now what really endeared them to me was the fact that this couple had moved to the UK purely because they were not allowed to adopt in their native Germany. So strong was their desire to become parents, that Read more about Should gays be allowed to adopt?[…]

Will we be accepted onto Stage 1?

A lot of the adoption process is all about WAITING! Waiting for various people to fulfil their end of the bargain. It may be waiting for a social worker to get back to you, waiting for a reference to come through, waiting for the child of your dreams…. All the adoption forums seem to say Read more about Will we be accepted onto Stage 1?[…]

Concurrent Planning Vs Fostering for Adoption

CONCURRENT PLANNING Concurrent Planning is for babies and young children under 2 in care who are likely to need adoption, but who still have a chance of being reunited with their birth family. Concurrent carers perform the role of foster carer while the courts decide whether or not a child can return to its birth family. Read more about Concurrent Planning Vs Fostering for Adoption[…]

The ‘ROI’ Form

So, we waited for the form. It arrived at 4.43pm on Monday 11th May: not bad as we’d only met on the Friday. It was printed in orange ink. I think it’s the only document I’ve ever come across to contain orange text! Anyway, the process of completing the form itself didn’t take long. Less than an Read more about The ‘ROI’ Form[…]

Pre Stage One Meeting

The day of our very first private meeting with Mosaic had arrived. Even the night before I kept thinking that this was going to be a ‘big day’. Although I realise that now that we’ve embarked on this process there are a hell of a lot more ‘big days’ ahead of us. Now, as I Read more about Pre Stage One Meeting[…]