At last: someone who knows their sh*t!

  So, dear readers, we left you on the tantalising cliff edge of our getting absolutely nowhere! Since then there has been one major development: we met someone competent (cue fireworks, sounds of cheering and a single shooting star traversing the night sky). Yes, I can confirm that such a person does exist in the Read more about At last: someone who knows their sh*t![…]

Short but not so sweet

Most people know that adoption isn’t an easy road to go down. It’s tough… but should it be this tough?! 3 months have passed since our last update. Not because we’ve been so busy making great headway with the whole process that we simply haven’t had time, but rather because it pretty much ground to Read more about Short but not so sweet[…]

Panning for Gold

When we started the adoption process I thought it might be a good idea to start a blog. In particular, I thought Ethan would be enthusiastic about the idea and that the blog would be a little project we (he) could take on. If only I’d known that I was making a rod for my Read more about Panning for Gold[…]

Going nowhere fast

              ‘Anything worth having is worth waiting for.’ ‘All good things come to those who wait.’ Platitudes like the ones above are all very well and good when one is trying to find the will to keep ploughing through something that is sure to yield rewards eventually. But let Read more about Going nowhere fast[…]

Stars Aligning

What feels like many, many moons ago (May) when we first embarked on the adoption process,  we discovered that there are barriers to becoming adoptive parents. Not the barriers that I had expected such as us being an unmarried male same sex couple,  but the fact that we, horror of horrors lived in a one bedroom Read more about Stars Aligning[…]

Lost in the Wilderness

“And now we’re lost in wilderness Lost, crying in the wilderness And if anyone’s watching it seems they couldn’t care less We’re lost in the wilderness” ‘Lost in the Wilderness’, Music & Lyrics by Stephen Schwartz The government aim is that the process to approve potential adopters should take six months. We were accepted by Read more about Lost in the Wilderness[…]

Should gays be allowed to adopt?

In his last post James mentioned the German gay couple we met at the NFS drinks. Now what really endeared them to me was the fact that this couple had moved to the UK purely because they were not allowed to adopt in their native Germany. So strong was their desire to become parents, that Read more about Should gays be allowed to adopt?[…]

The New Family Social, Social!

After RSVP-ing online, the day came to attend our first adoption-related social event. I was quite excited (more so than Ethan), partly because we were going to meet like-minded individuals but also because, as one gets older, one meets new groups of people less and less. To be introduced to a whole new bunch is Read more about The New Family Social, Social![…]

Will we be accepted onto Stage 1?

A lot of the adoption process is all about WAITING! Waiting for various people to fulfil their end of the bargain. It may be waiting for a social worker to get back to you, waiting for a reference to come through, waiting for the child of your dreams…. All the adoption forums seem to say Read more about Will we be accepted onto Stage 1?[…]

Concurrent Planning Vs Fostering for Adoption

CONCURRENT PLANNING Concurrent Planning is for babies and young children under 2 in care who are likely to need adoption, but who still have a chance of being reunited with their birth family. Concurrent carers perform the role of foster carer while the courts decide whether or not a child can return to its birth family. Read more about Concurrent Planning Vs Fostering for Adoption[…]