(Really) Long time no see – Part 2: Light at the end of the tunnel

It feels like an eternity has passed since I last felt able to write an update on our adoption journey. In fact it’s been almost a year since I personally wrote a post and 5 months since James filled you in on our story! For the sake of my sanity and emotional well-being, rather than Read more about (Really) Long time no see – Part 2: Light at the end of the tunnel[…]

Panning for Gold

When we started the adoption process I thought it might be a good idea to start a blog. In particular, I thought Ethan would be enthusiastic about the idea and that the blog would be a little project we (he) could take on. If only I’d known that I was making a rod for my Read more about Panning for Gold[…]

No stone left unturned

It is a wonderful thing to get to experience, thriving, ‘normal’ families that just happen to be headed by same sex parents. Having been to the NFS family event, the carrot that dangles in front of us is all the more tangible, all the more enticing. The problem is, in order for us to get Read more about No stone left unturned[…]

Neverland

Do you ever have that moment? That moment when you feel like anything is possible? Not just possible, but feasible. Realistic. It comes once in a blue moon and hits you by surprise. Like a train. Or a mugger. A couple of Sundays ago I had that moment. I stood in a park in Central Read more about Neverland[…]

Should gays be allowed to adopt?

In his last post James mentioned the German gay couple we met at the NFS drinks. Now what really endeared them to me was the fact that this couple had moved to the UK purely because they were not allowed to adopt in their native Germany. So strong was their desire to become parents, that Read more about Should gays be allowed to adopt?[…]

The New Family Social, Social!

After RSVP-ing online, the day came to attend our first adoption-related social event. I was quite excited (more so than Ethan), partly because we were going to meet like-minded individuals but also because, as one gets older, one meets new groups of people less and less. To be introduced to a whole new bunch is Read more about The New Family Social, Social![…]

Will we be accepted onto Stage 1?

A lot of the adoption process is all about WAITING! Waiting for various people to fulfil their end of the bargain. It may be waiting for a social worker to get back to you, waiting for a reference to come through, waiting for the child of your dreams…. All the adoption forums seem to say Read more about Will we be accepted onto Stage 1?[…]

Concurrent Planning Vs Fostering for Adoption

CONCURRENT PLANNING Concurrent Planning is for babies and young children under 2 in care who are likely to need adoption, but who still have a chance of being reunited with their birth family. Concurrent carers perform the role of foster carer while the courts decide whether or not a child can return to its birth family. Read more about Concurrent Planning Vs Fostering for Adoption[…]

The ‘ROI’ Form

So, we waited for the form. It arrived at 4.43pm on Monday 11th May: not bad as we’d only met on the Friday. It was printed in orange ink. I think it’s the only document I’ve ever come across to contain orange text! Anyway, the process of completing the form itself didn’t take long. Less than an Read more about The ‘ROI’ Form[…]

In The Beginning…

So James and I have been together just short of 3 years (so we’ve cheated a little on the 3 years part of our blog title!) I have always dreamed of being a parent, but growing up gay had resigned myself to the thought that it would never be a reality. Then when I reached Read more about In The Beginning…[…]